![]() ![]() Say that you went through a tough time, and you had a friend you talked with that about. Why people don’t care, lose interest, or betray Not because they’re mean, but because we’re all wired this way. If we don’t cater to people’s emotional needs, they won’t enjoy being with us and disappear from our lives. We have to accept this fact about us humans, just like we have to accept that we all have to go to the toilet. It’s about us humans being wired in a way we can’t unwire. But it’s not that everyone has a bad attitude. Important: We can wish people were different. Egoistic socializing is a system so hardwired that neither we nor anyone else is going to change that any time soon. We ALSO want to have (non-stupid) friends to not feel lonely, to experience positive emotions, and to share experiences. Now, we shouldn’t forget that you and I are evolved in the exact same way. (An egoistic need evolved throughout history) Why do people want to go do things with their friends? To share an experience.Why do people want to meet up with a friend? To have a good time = experience a positive emotion (An egoistic need).Why do people want friends? To not feel lonely.People socialize and have friends for egoistic reasons. When the neighbor tribe attacked, you’d better hope you’d have people around that you could trust in. Thousands of years ago, our ancestors learned the hard way that having a small tribe of friends was the difference between life and death. Why? Because no matter what we think, we’re social animals. When hating people isolates us it becomes a problem. Perhaps you’re still on the lookout for that unicorn – a person who isn’t shallow or stupid. Even though some part of you has broken up with the rest of humanity, another part of you still wants to keep in touch with others. If you’re like me, you can easily get fed up with people. When it can be a problem to dislike or hate people Email the order confirmation to SocialSelf to get your unique coupon code. To receive your $50 SocialSelf coupon, sign up for BetterHelp using the orange button. Use the button below to get 20% off your first month at BetterHelp + a $50 coupon valid for any SocialSelf course. Take a quiz, get matched, and start getting support via phone or video sessions. They’re super successful, but they can also seem like real jerks.įind a therapist from BetterHelp's network of therapists for your everyday therapy needs. Look at people like Steve Jobs, Angela Merkel, Elon Musk, Theresa May, and Bill Gates. They dare to stand up and fight for what’s important to them when others prioritize not stepping on anyone’s toes. Less agreeable people tend to be more successful. For example, if someone has to get things done, it can help to be aggressive. Researchers call this trait hostility toward the world.Īs you can see in the image, hostility has its value. A-type personalities (We who value getting things done over chit-chatting and exchanging pleasantries) are inclined to not like people. It’s common to be fed up with and even hate people. Cognitive obstacles that trap us in hate Pros and cons of hating people When it can be good to dislike or hate people.Why do people LOVE meaningless small talk?.If you scored one or more positive responses to the questions above, this guide is for you. You sometimes come home after a day of having to interact with others and think “ I hate people”.You’re fed up with small talk and superficial niceness.You’ve come to realize that beneath the surface, people actually don’t care about others and lose interest in hanging out when it doesn’t suit them.Many of those you’ve actually invested time and emotion in have ended up betraying you.Do you agree with any of the following statements? ![]()
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